Food & Emotions

by priscilla
(new jersey)

Hi how are you, I wrote to you a few months ago but haven't had a chance to respond.

I have tried everything to stop but my mind happens to take over my emotions and then I blank out and eat.

I just want to know how can I stop this feeling of food getting to my emotions? And then not wanting to put down the junk food?

It just has taken over me and I don't know what to do anymore. My mother has been there for me since she found out but it's hard for someone to help when they aren't in your shoes.

Just any little advice will help.

Thank you!
Pris

ANSWER

Hello Pris; it is nice to hear from you again :)

I understand where you are coming from. There was a time when I felt like I had absolutely no control over food. I put myself in a victim role with food... I gave up all my power and free will.

But I realized that by being a 'victim'; I also gave up my happiness.

When we stuff our emotions down with food; we become lost. The reason is because our emotions are designed to guide us. When we feel sad, depressed, or angry; those emotions should be used as a tool to know that you are on the wrong track.

And just the opposite; when you have good emotions (that are sustainable; not a 'high' from eating) you know that you are doing something that is producing the life you deserve.

Some questions to think about:

• Are you giving your power away to food?


• Are you still holding onto binge eating (for comfort)?


• Are you utilizing your journal?


• Are you expressing your emotions and using them to guide you?


• Have you tried replacing the act of binge eating with a healthy coping skill?

I know its not easy; gaining the momentum is the most challenging part. But once you begin to make small changes it become easier.

Whenever you feel the need to binge; pull out your journal. Identify the real issue and come up with proactive things you can do to address it.

You can also create a new healthy habit to replace binge eating. It is a lot easier to replace a habit than it is to eliminate one all together. Keep in mind that you need to choose something that is fulfilling to you and that gives you a sense of well being and empowerment. It might be meditation, yoga, repeating afformations, or even your journal writing. Anything that YOU LOVE.

Remember not to judge yourself for being where you are. Just notice it and take the actions needed to change it. Don't beat yourself up. Overcoming binge eating is a process. Its about taking one step at a time; and learning with each triumph and mistake you make.


All my Best,

Stefanie

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