Holly

I have always been the chubby kid. It's not fair that some people are just thin and dainty. I lost a lot of weight last year but it was not sustainable as i exercised like crazy everyday and didn't go out or do anything with friends for fear of eating. Now I'm back to my binge eating ways.

Anything and everything in my sight that is
remotely "bad" for me from chocolate and cake to cereals and multiple slices of bread - even stuff I don't really like. I don't know where to start or what to do. I'm hopeless and disgusting.



ANSWER

You're stuck. Or least that is how you're feeling. I've been there many times. I would cycle from binging to restricting then back to binging again. It was a continuous cycle that I didn't know how to relieve myself from.

I soon realized that no diet or amount of exercise would 'fix' my problem. I started looking at the real reasons I was binging. I did a lot journal writing and reflection. Not with judgment; but with the intent to understand what I really needed.

Binging is merely a symptom of bigger things. Its about how we deal with stress and emotions. Its about learning how to love YOU.

When a person values themselves and loves themselves.... they tend to take care of their minds and bodies. That is what you're focus needs to be on; not on the binging.

Look at the patterns you have with binge eating;
and come up with alternate activities that you enjoy doing. Use those activities when you feel the need to binge.

Just remember that overcoming binge eating is a process. It won't be solved overnight; it takes time, patience, and a willingness to love yourself again.

Another note: Everyone's body is different...

Myself; I am NOT "thin and dainty". I'm naturally muscular... I will never fit into 'skinny' jeans; but that doesn't mean that I am not beautiful. The same goes for you; no matter your body size or shape; you are beautiful. You may not feel that way, or even believe it. But you are.

You are valuable... no matter your situation or choices. If you knew who you really are; you would be in awe of yourself.


All my Best,

Stefanie