Why don't I stop?

by Alyssa
(USA)

Hello Stefanie,

I engage in binge eating sometimes. I KNOW it's wrong. I KNOW I'm hurting myself (and others). My head is screaming at me to STOP. I CAN pinpoint the underlying problem. I KNOW I should just allow myself feel those feelings.

And yet, I'll still binge.

Why don't I stop? Why can't I allow those negative emotions be felt?

WHY DON'T I LISTEN TO THOSE SAVING VOICES IN MY HEAD WHEN A BINGE IS COMING OR WHILE I'M BINGING??

Thanks.



ANSWER

I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR. I totally understand exactly where you are at! I've been exactly where you are... feeling frustrated, knowing the reasons you binge.... but not being to let them go.

Trust me when I say... that you may be on the edge of a breakthrough. I would liken it to being in the last mile of 10 mile hike. Keep the faith, it may be painful... but you are nearly at the horizon.

Some food for thought...

If this is where you are... then you may not believe it is SAFE to stop.

If you were to stop binging.... you would loose your coping mechanism. You would loose the 'comfort' that you crave.

Ask yourself....

• If I was never able to binge again what scares me the most?


• What issues would I need to face?

You don't to have to be perfect and it all doesn't have to stop instantly. But before you can successfully let go of binging you must believe, on an unconscious level, that is safe to stop binging.

We all know what is right and wrong for ourselves.... its about believing that the things we should be doing are 'safe' to do. Or that they support what we believe about who we are. If not... we simply won't do them.

Use your intuition. Trust yourself. Have courage and allow your higher self to lead the way even if it may seem hard. And don't ever beat yourself up for not being 'perfect'.

You are more powerful than you realize... I believe in you Alyssa!

All my Best,

Stefanie